While chatting with the mother of a toddler I mentioned what a good helper her little one was. She smiled as she agreed and then added that her daughter was becoming very independent. It seemed her favourite phrase was, “I do it myself.”
I said, “I still sometimes want to do things on my own when I should be asking for help.”
This isn’t something I readily admit, even to myself. When I compare my stubborn streak to that of a small child it’s time to take a closer look at my motives.
Children are seeking independence and a sense of accomplishment when they insist on doing something on their own. They also give in and accept help when they need it.
I can’t speak for others, but for me I know that pride gets in the way. If I admit to needing help does that mean I’m not smart enough or strong enough to handle this on my own? Will others judge me and see me as weak or incompetent?
In reality, I am the one judging myself. I need to stop and realize that I’m not meant to be a one woman show. God created each one of us with unique gifts. I may be good at one thing, while you excel at another. Together we are much stronger.
For this reason, I’m setting myself up for defeat and disappointment when I think I can do everything on my own. Instead I need to combine my strengths and abilities with those of others. When I pray for wisdom, God will lead me to those he wants me to partner with. The real strength comes from following his guidance and not thinking I need to do everything by myself.
Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many. Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. (1 Corinthians 12:14,15 NIV)
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Wow, that is so true Tandy.
When I finally give in and get help, if I adopt the right attitude, I feel very good and love the support.
The challenge for me is when people giving the help “appear” judgemental. I have to let them be who they are and give myself credit for being open to help.
That’s a pretty hard thing for me but practice helps.
Thanks so much Tandy,
Thanks for your comments Noel. I struggle with that challenge, too, even though I know asking for help is the route I should take!
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