Tag: missed opportunities

  • Special Occasions

    Something exciting happened in my family recently. My oldest granddaughter called to tell me she was engaged. I’m overjoyed for them and thrilled to welcome him as another grandchild.

    Since that happy announcement, memories of my engagement, way back in the last century, have been flooding my mind.

    Once we had set a wedding date, my mom took me shopping to choose a china pattern. Pieces received at future bridal showers and as wedding guests would help me complete my set. This was common practice then and the question, “Have you picked a china pattern?”, was often asked.

    I chose a Royal Albert pattern called Inspiration. It had dainty blue flowers and a gold rim around the border. I thought it was beautiful and If I had to chose again today, I would make the same choice.

    One thing I wouldn’t do would be to would be to only use this china on special occasions. The fear of chipping or breaking a piece of this beautiful (and expensive) bone china caused me to store it safely away rather than enjoy it.

    The difficulty came in knowing when an occasion was special enough. After a while it was forgotten in it’s “safe” place, no more part of celebrations.

    Or, was it that I stopped celebrating? Don’t get me wrong, I still celebrated things like family birthdays and achievements of my kids. I just didn’t celebrate anything for myself. In my mind, there was always something or someone more important and I didn’t take notice of anything I did as being special.

    Now I see how my thinking was faulty. There have been many missed opportunities to declare a moment worth celebrating. All could have been called special occasions if I’d let them.

    It’s time I started celebrating moments in my life. I will let my Inspirations china be my inspiration. If I eat dinner from my good china, will that make today a special occasion? If nothing else, it’s a good place to start.

  • Where to Start?

    youth, summer jobIn my youth, I earned spending money in the summer by picking strawberries and raspberries. How much I earned depended on the weight of berries I picked.

    Most of the times, the rows I picked on were assigned and I had to take the next one available. When I did have the opportunity to choose, I would look for the one I could easily see the most fruit on. I figured that would enable me to add more weight to my basket for the same effort.

    Looking for the best place to start didn’t always work in my favour. I often looked over with envy at the row beside me where it seemed plants had an abundance of hidden fruit.

    The lesson I learned was to stop wasting time looking for something better. If I wanted to meet my goal, I had to just get started.

    Many years later, this lesson still holds value – when I remember it. I shudder to think of the time I’ve wasted, looking for more advantageous starting places. How many projects have been abandoned because I didn’t find the perfect time or place to get going on them? How many opportunities lost?

    On the other hand, when I have decided to put my mind to it and just do it, I’ve found unexpected hidden fruit along the way. These treasures would still be undiscovered if I’d waited for the elusive “perfect opportunity.”

    I’ve taken a leap of faith into a few projects lately and can speak from experience. When looking for a place to start, it doesn’t get any better than right where you are.